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Let's Talk About Love, Baby.

Quick. Has this happened to you? I want your knee jerk answers! ;P 

You're out somewhere, the grocery or a bookstore or at a gas station, and you see someone who immediately catches your eye. Your brain goes, DAYUM, and you get a little sweaty palmed staring at them. This person hits all your buttons without even trying. You get all fluttery inside while sidling up next to them next to the green peppers or Great Expectations.


Is that love?

Nah. But it *is* something. And that something gets a bad rap a lot of times.

OMG, please not with the insta-love. Gag. Hork. Ugh.

Nope, I’m talking about insta-LUST today.

I think a lot of times insta-lust gets mistaken for insta-love, which is a hot topic of epic proportions. I tend to agree more than disagree there. The stories where two characters meet and within a week of barely any interaction, declare they love each other more than life? Yeah, I do a little eye rolling.

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BUT when two characters meet and the chemistry is off the charts and they get together based on that chemistry. Insta-lust. And yeah, I get that. I love that! There is nothing quite like the chemistry between people. It makes your heart pound and your pulse race and makes you wonder how good they kiss while you stare at their lips. You think, breath, eat this person. You can’t get them out of your mind. You want to be with them every second of the day.

I remember doing this in high school. Seeing a really cute guy walking down the hallway and thinking, “Damn, I’m in love.” I’d never even talked to him before and here I was planning our wedding. (Okay not quite but still) Going out of my way just to look at him between classes, or secretly doodling my name with his last name, just to see how they looked together? Yes, I did all that. Hey I was 16. But then something happened. The guy noticed me and…he was nothing like I imagined. That feeling died pretty fast and I moved on.

Was it love? No way. Was there something there I was attracted too? Hell yes. Are they the same? No way. (Disclaimer: you can in fact be attracted to someone and end up in love. Not saying that at all. The first time I saw a picture of my husband, I told my friend I was going to marry him. I didn’t even know his name at the time but I knew I was attracted to him. We’ve been married almost 17 years.) But without that initial attraction, I never would have pursued getting to know him.

The next time you read a book and you start to roll your eyes because ugh, insta-love, that is not realistic at all, stop and take a step back. Is it *really* insta-love or are you witnessing a physical, very real reaction between two characters?  If that initial attraction allows them to get together, to then get to know each other and fall in love, that’s romantic. That’s real.

At least I think it is. ;P How about you? :)

Lee Bross

Lee lives her happily ever after on the coast of Maine where she has written Tangled Webs, her historical YA debut, and fantasy YA books Fates and Chaos under pen name Lanie Bross. She also writes contemporary books for New Adult under the name L.E. Bross, debuting with Right Where You Are.

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  1. I agree, sometimes, what someone thinks is an insta-love is an insta-lust, and that's okay, because damn, I'd be lusting after some of these book boys too, because they're nice.. Such a great post Lee, and a great blog! :)


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