Quick. Has this happened to you? I want your knee jerk answers! ;P
You're out
somewhere, the grocery or a bookstore or at a gas station, and you see someone
who immediately catches your eye. Your brain goes, DAYUM, and you get a little
sweaty palmed staring at them. This person hits all your buttons without even
trying. You get all fluttery inside while sidling up next to them next to the
green peppers or Great Expectations.
Why?
Is that love?
Nah. But it *is* something. And that something gets a bad
rap a lot of times.
OMG, please not with the insta-love. Gag.
Hork. Ugh.
Nope, I’m talking about insta-LUST today.
I think a lot of times insta-lust gets mistaken for
insta-love, which is a hot topic of epic proportions. I tend to agree more than
disagree there. The stories where two characters meet and within a week of
barely any interaction, declare they love each other more than life? Yeah, I do
a little eye rolling.
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BUT when two characters meet and the chemistry is off the
charts and they get together based on that chemistry. Insta-lust. And yeah, I
get that. I love that! There is nothing quite like the chemistry between people.
It makes your heart pound and your pulse race and makes you wonder how good
they kiss while you stare at their lips. You think, breath, eat this person.
You can’t get them out of your mind. You want to be with them every second of
the day.
I remember doing this in high school. Seeing a really
cute guy walking down the hallway and thinking, “Damn, I’m in love.” I’d never even talked to him before
and here I was planning our wedding. (Okay not quite but still) Going out of my
way just to look at him between classes, or secretly doodling my name with his
last name, just to see how they looked together? Yes, I did all that. Hey I was
16. But then something happened. The guy noticed me and…he was nothing like I imagined.
That feeling died pretty fast and I moved on.
Was it love? No way. Was there something there I was
attracted too? Hell yes. Are they the same? No way. (Disclaimer: you can in
fact be attracted to someone and end up in love. Not saying that at all. The
first time I saw a picture of my husband, I told my friend I was going to marry
him. I didn’t even know his name at the time but I knew I was attracted to him. We’ve been married almost 17
years.) But without that initial attraction, I never would have pursued getting
to know him.
The next time you read a book and you start to roll your
eyes because ugh, insta-love, that is not realistic at all, stop and take a
step back. Is it *really* insta-love or are you witnessing a physical, very
real reaction between two characters? If
that initial attraction allows them to get together, to then get to know each
other and fall in love, that’s romantic. That’s real.
At least I think it is. ;P How about you? :)
I agree, sometimes, what someone thinks is an insta-love is an insta-lust, and that's okay, because damn, I'd be lusting after some of these book boys too, because they're nice.. Such a great post Lee, and a great blog! :)
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