All of that changed when I joined Absolute Write and made friends with ladies that I'm still close to today! Not only did I meet people who shared the intensity of my desire to write toward publication, but I also met people who were incredibly supportive of my writing, who cheered me on when I didn't think I could finish a book, who told me I was great, even when I wasn't. And that summer I finished my very first book (it was 250k words)(don't look at me).
I know this advice is out there, written in many ways, telling you the same thing. But I want to repeat it! And add a little something. It was (and continues to be) incredibly important that I have writer friends that I trust deeply, to tell me the truth when my writing isn't working, to cheer me on when I'm in the dumps, to give me good advice. And I think a thing that sometimes gets lost in the general advice giving of 'find a support group' is that to in order for the group to work for you you have to trust them deeply. For me, and for many of us, writing is a thing tied to our very core, and giving a book to a critique partner is very different than releasing it to a faceless mass of people who's opinions may or may not matter.
Ways that worked for me:
- Twitter! I knew lots of faces from Absolute Write but twitter felt a lot less pressure making, and its really casual and person focused! I met lots of people on AW but I became friends over twitter because there is no fear of double posting.
- Writing threads on forums! Most writing forums will have a 'share snippets' thread -- this is a great way to share your writing and find people of like mindedness re: writing!
- Blogs! Commenting on fellow writers blogs, participating in blog fests, joining in on RTW or Teaser Tuesday: these are all really great ways to meet and greet other people.