That is, until I got pregnant.
The thing is, I still think it's a pretty good metaphor. The roller coaster emotions and the hard work involved in writing a book go hand-in-hand with the ups and downs of pregnancy, too. I have probably cried more over my manuscript than I have over this unborn child in my uterus.
However, there are some misconceptions in the book-baby metaphor that, as a person currently gestating a baby-baby as well as a book-baby, I must address.
1.) You're never going to accidentally have a book-baby.
Dear writer, I am sorry, but you're not going to stumble into a finished manuscript in the same way you might skip a day of birth control and find yourself with an infant. The only way you can conceive a whole book is to sit down, day after day, and work.
2.) Your book-baby probably won't adhere to deadlines.
Not that baby-babies do either - but writing a book is even less certain than gestating a baby. Sure, there are premies that are born at 7 months, or 8; but generally, most infants take 9 months to cook. With books, there are no rules. Don't let anyone tell you differently. You might write a full first draft in five weeks; or, it might take you ten years. Just because your manuscript is approaching its tenth trimester doesn't mean you've failed as a writer. This book will be born when its ready.
3.) Sometimes it's lonelier to mother a book-baby than a baby-baby.
I'm lucky enough to be surrounded by support in my pregnancy. My husband, my parents, my in-laws, my midwife - they have all showered me with love, advice, and much-needed rest when I'm too stubborn to ask for it myself. But, sometimes, writing a book is not like that. Writing a book means that people will ask why you must spend so much time with your baby, why you need rest and quiet, why you have a routine that you have to safeguard against all others. It's hard, but people won't necessarily understand why it's hard.
So do your best to surround yourself with supporters. Find family and friends and writing groups that encourage your alone time, and believe in your book-baby. Track down a "doctor" who will monitor your book-baby's growth.
What are some other good metaphors, besides the "book-baby," that describe the writing process? Any ideas?